Assertive Aggressive or Passive

Are you Assertive Aggressive or Passive

Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication, which is self-enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively will allow you to feel confident and gain the respect of your peers and friends. It can help in better relationships and make you feel better about yourself. This, in turn, will improve your decision-making ability and possibly your chances of getting what you want from life. Assertiveness is one of the critical skills required for leadership development. It is good to understand whether your style of communication is assertive aggressive or passive.

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When you feel something is important, do you interrupt a conversation?

2 / 36

If you are disturbed by someone’s behavior/ actions do you tell them?

3 / 36

Do you use rudeness and/ or sarcasm as a means of dealing with people who have failed to meet your expectations?

4 / 36

Do you feel comfortable admitting you ‘don’t know’?

5 / 36

Are you openly critical of others ideas, opinions or behavior?

6 / 36

Do you try and protect people by not telling them the truth if you think you will hurt them?

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When you are angry or upset with someone do you avoid them?

8 / 36

When you disagree with a course of action or decision do you keep quiet?

9 / 36

Can you say no to an unreasonable request without feeling guilty?

10 / 36

Do you find it difficult to maintain eye contact when talking to another person?

11 / 36

Are you afraid to show your weaknesses?

12 / 36

Do you have difficulty in finding things to compliment or praise others about?

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Do you always point out when an unfair action has occurred?

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When someone does something that upsets/ annoys you do you tell them directly?

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Do you ask for help when you need it?

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Do you have confidence in your judgement?

17 / 36

Do you disagree with a person you respect, do you share your point of view with them?

18 / 36

Do you express what you feel?

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Do you keep your views to yourself when there are more “expert” people in the meeting?

20 / 36

Do you manipulate people to achieve the results you want?

21 / 36

Do you feel uncomfortable when you are not in control of a situation?

22 / 36

Do you find ways of getting back at people who have angered/ annoyed you?

23 / 36

When you receive poor service do you complain to the person and ask them to correct the situation?

24 / 36

Do you start conversations with people (face to face or telephone) without checking whether it is convenient?

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Do you point out the consequence of a particular course of action?

26 / 36

Do you get upset/ angry when someone is angry with you?

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Do you try to respond in a way you think others want you to?

28 / 36

Do you get defensive when someone appears to be criticizing your work/behaviour appearance?

29 / 36

Do you get embarrassed when someone compliments your work?

30 / 36

Do you make sure that you always have the last word in a discussion?

31 / 36

Are you disturbed by someone watching you at work?

32 / 36

Do you wait to be asked to take part in tasks where you know you have a valuable contribution to make?

33 / 36

Do you tend to go along with things, for a quite life?

34 / 36

Do you tend to discount the views of junior staff when reaching a decision?

35 / 36

Do you bottle up anger/ frustration with a person and then vent it on someone/ something else?

36 / 36

If a person is late with a piece of work, do you mention it?

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